4.21.2008

{ 12 ways to stay on top of stress }

So, it's 12:40am on Monday and I am wide awake working - not good - but I have a to do list a mile & a half long and need to get through some of it (put most of it off all weekend to have fun with the family). Came across this good advice that I think I will need this week...

This article is from Gabby Reese's website, Go To Gabby and contains wonderful advice on ways to stay stress free. I think it is a great way to start the week with these tips in mind! I think this is a fabulous article so I've posted it all here so you don't miss it and so you can go back to it again and again.

Here it is...

You know how you have those weeks (or maybe months or years) that just seem to be loaded with stress? I know it's all relative -- one person's stress is another's holiday. People with two children think having just one child is a piece of cake, and so on. I've had one of those weeks -- I've been on the road a lot and dealing with an injury, work hasn't been going my way, and my three-year-old has been possessed by an alien. And I'm not talking about a friendly alien that wants to know what this planet is all about -- no, I am talking about someone who wants to launch a full-scale assault, but only in public places. To be honest, this stress has even made it more challenging to relate to my husband in a free-and-easy "girlie" way. I've had more tones of "wife" in my voice during this past week than I've had in my entire 11-year relationship.

It takes a million years for one gene to change in our bodies. One million years! I'm bringing this up because, physiologically, we're the same humans we were 300 years ago. But look at how things have changed in that short time. Some things make life easier now: washers and dryers, transportation, abundance of food, electricity, etc. But some things make life today more insane: cell phones, traffic, increased population, fake food, TV, busy schedules. I heard a statistic from a doctor-friend that we make more decisions in one day than people used to make in a year. No wonder we're stressed out and reaching for doughnuts or alcohol to cope.

All this craziness and high-speed living isn't going away. Since we can't change our genes, we have to create a map to navigate this crazy life. What can you do to try and stay on top of the stress so it doesn't affect your health, happiness, or waistline?

  1. Exercise. Amen for endorphins. Believe me, they've helped me many days with my perspective. If you have to work out, then go take a brisk walk and get that blood flowing. It isn't about working out to lose weight -- it's about being healthy and staying sane.

  2. Eat the real stuff. Crappy food (fast, processed, and loaded with sugar) doesn't help your chemical brain and body handle stress. Living food, real food, helps support your mind and body while it's trying to deal with the million things coming its way. Every time I reach for the chocolate, I'm looking to feel something from it. Don't get me wrong -- if it's just a little here and there because I enjoy the taste of it, great. But if I'm using it the minute I feel overwhelmed, then that's when that food is no longer OK to eat. It doesn't make the problem go away, and then I just feel bad about eating the food to pacify myself. Grab green food instead. Put things in your mouth that are going to support your immune function and keep you levelheaded.

  3. Notice. Try not to let the stress overtake you. Recognize the situations that cause the stress and notice them coming your way. You have a better shot at fending off the full effects of the stress when you can anticipate it.

  4. Get it off your chest. Talk to a friend or partner about the stress. Sometimes just getting it off your chest can help unload some of the burden.
  5. Keep your sense of humor. If you do have the chance to talk about it, try to see the irony and humor in the wacky bits. I think someone is dead in the water once they lose their sense of humor.

  6. Stay grateful. My daughter has large lungs and verbal skills she likes to display. Just when I start to wishfully think about her being quiet, I remind myself to be grateful that she can talk to me at all. In almost all of our problems are boatloads of blessings. "Oh, I don't feel like going to the gym." Well, Amen that you have the means and the health to even be able to wrestle with the idea of going to work out. Make a habit of saying thank you. You will notice the sunny spots a lot more often, and not just the gray skies and storms.

  7. Ask, "What's the hurry?" Have some fun. We're always so busy going somewhere, we miss just enjoying the moment. If an opportunity comes your way to do something fun, take it.

  8. Take a deep breath. When you feel the stress getting to you, take a moment. Get away, even if it's just for an hour, to be with yourself and your thoughts. Some people like to take a walk, meditate, lock themselves away in a beautiful bath, or go to church. Find the peace and the silence.

  9. Keep it simple. Simplify where you can. Does Junior really need to be in 78 activities at the age of 5? Do you have to go to every little party or gathering you're invited to?

  10. Turn of the TV. A lot of it is bad news anyway, and it robs us of hours that we could use to be getting other things done. Since everyone complains that they have no time, get some by unplugging from the tube.

  11. Sleep. If you're rested, you have a better shot at handling things. Not to mention, you may not stress out as easily if you have a chance to recover at night.

  12. Drink water. I have said it before: Americans consume 21 percent of their calories through liquid consumption. Hydrate with water. Help you entire system function better just by drinking enough water. Oh, and by the way, if you don't think that weight loss and proper hydration have a relationship, think again. Shift the paradigm on its side -- don't think about exercise and nutritional eating just as something you have to suffer through to get into those jeans. Instead, think of them as armor that will protect you in this crazy world, with all of the bazillion details you deal with every day.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

those are all great tips! thank you as always for sharing! hope you got some sleep last night. D

Wilcox Family said...

Thanks for sharing, I loved this! I wonder what your thoughts are for staying sane at racing events. Both my husband and I raced this weekend - it was insane trying to balance the kids, keep them happy, keep on race schedule, focus and have fun amongst 48 degree weather and 40mph winds! Whew - I can imagine you have some great ideas?

I hope you get a little more sleep tonight!!

Jana

LobotoME said...

hi jana -

re. race tips - well at the races we put on we have someone there watching sam (either my parents, will's mom or a nanny we bring along with us). so we can still see her but she is not our responsibility - because we have 300+ racers to keep track of and keep safe so i can't add one active 4 year old to the mix too (or i really would go insane). i don't personally race as much as i used to - not enough time to really train and not enough free weekends. however, if i do sign up for a race, will has sam and if he signs up for a race, she & i cheer him on. we have never raced together at the same event. what we have done just on trips when we both want to mt. bike is we usually go with another family and take turns watching the kids. i would suggest that the next time you guys race, you bring along a babysitter - find some teenager who will travel with you and entertain the kids while you guys are out on the course. i will have a post later this week about our new toy (a pop up camper) which i think will make our race ventures with Sam even easier.
have a great day! :)

Anonymous said...

great tips! thanks!

Jenna

Wilcox Family said...

You are right on, thank you. My husband and I were just saying that next year one of us will have to opt out of racing so we and the kids can actually enjoy the weekend OR better yet bring someone to watch them...for those few moments.

Stephanie said...

We got rid of our TV a few years ago and it's been a huge blessing. Oh the things I accomplish now!

LobotoME said...

good for you steph for getting rid of the TV!!! we need to do that too... :)